<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Pan Psychotherapy 吟雪心理]]></title><description><![CDATA[Pan Psychotherapy]]></description><link>https://www.panpsychotherapy.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Fri, 18 Sep 2026 23:38:00 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.panpsychotherapy.com/zh/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[You know what everyone needs. What do you want?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Someone asks what you would like to do. You think about their week. What would make things easier. What they might find disappointing. “Whatever suits you,” you say. Sometimes you mean it. Sometimes, later, you realise you had a preference. It disappeared before you could hear it. Life continues. You work, make arrangements, remember what matters to other people. Yet when there is finally space for you, you may not know what to put there. This can be one way of losing contact with yourself....]]></description><link>https://www.panpsychotherapy.com/post/you-know-what-everyone-needs-what-do-you-want</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aad31ffd4841865a20da2e8</guid><pubDate>Fri, 18 Sep 2026 12:45:03 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Yinxue Pan</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[还能撑，就不需要心理咨询吗？]]></title><description><![CDATA[搜过心理咨询，看了几页，最后又退出去了。 “也没到那个地步。”“别人不都这样过吗？”“再调整一下，应该就好了。” 第二天，照常上班，回复消息，处理家里的事。该做的都做了，于是昨晚想找人谈谈的念头，又被放到一边。 只是，一次争执会在心里反复很久。明明累了，躺下却停不下来。别人问你怎么了，你说“没事”，因为真要说，也不知道从哪里说起。 生活还在继续。你却越来越少有余力，去感受其中有什么值得期待。 “还能撑”说明你仍在付出力气，却没有告诉你，这样撑着已经付出了多少代价。 想求助，也会犹豫 想到求助时，心里也许会同时出现两种声音。 一个说：“我想有人听听。” 另一个马上接上：“这点事都处理不好吗？” 如果你习惯了懂事、可靠、不给别人添麻烦，承认自己需要支持，可能会让你不安。 你也许担心被看轻，担心说起家里的事像是在责怪谁，或者担心一旦开口，就会被要求做出自己还没准备好的决定。 这些顾虑，也可以带进咨询。 那个一直撑着的自己，也值得被理解 我们可以慢慢了解：那个一直负责把日子撑下去的自己，最怕发生什么？“我自己来”在什么时候保护过你？如今，又有哪些感受和需要，总是轮不到被照顾？...]]></description><link>https://www.panpsychotherapy.com/zh/post/%E8%BF%98%E8%83%BD%E6%92%91%EF%BC%8C%E5%B0%B1%E4%B8%8D%E9%9C%80%E8%A6%81%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%90%97%EF%BC%9F</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6aad1a0dd4841865a20d7000</guid><pubDate>Fri, 18 Sep 2026 11:04:11 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Yinxue Pan</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>